Raymond Douglas Engelmeyer

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September 25, 1951 - September 14, 2020
Born in St. Louis, MO
Resided in St. Charles, MO

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Raymond Douglas Engelmeyer, of St. Charles, Missouri, passed away Monday, September 14, 2020 at the age of 68.  He is now reunited with his true love of 38 years, Tomi Engelmeyer. Beloved son of the late Pauline and William Engelmeyer, Sr.; dear brother of Donald (Maureen) Engelmeyer, Gerald (Sharon) Engelmeyer, Paul (Mary Scully) Engelmeyer, Patricia Clare (Geoffrey) Plott, Stephen (Eileen) Engelmeyer, Barbara (Mark) Ryan, Mary Engelmeyer, Joan Engelmeyer, and the late William F. Engelmeyer Jr.; loving uncle of Donald, William, Geoffrey, Natalie, Valerie, Kaegan, Erik, Luke, Jane, Bill, Robert, Elizabeth, Nora, Christopher, Nicholas, Alexander, Audrey, and Marco; treasured great-uncle of Victoria, Emma, Carter, Nolen, Addison, Will, Graham, Ryder, Tuesday, Marley, Frances Rose, Bennett, Rowan, Olive, Ruth, Maiya, Ryan, Lucille, Harriet, Ivan, and Eden.  Ray is also survived by his adorable miniature poodle, Peko.

Ray proudly and honorably served in the United States Marines during the Vietnam War.  He met Tomi, the love of his life, while he was stationed over seas.  He often said, "I guess it was written at birth, a German boy was to be in her life."   Ray worked for AT&T and retired after more than 40 years with the company.

Ray was known for his strength, both physically and emotionally, and was a real rock of support to his family and friends.  He had a great sense of humor and his blue eyes would sparkle when he made others laugh.  He was a true gentleman who had a wonderful heart and genuinely cared for those around him.

Ray loved music, especially blues & jazz music, and he enjoyed playing the drums. He was also an avid horse racing fan and vintage car enthusiast.  He had a passion for the written word, as seen in his talent for writing and his extensive library of books.

Ray could usually be found outdoors, and he enjoyed fishing and gardening with his wife, Tomi.  He also liked to socialize wherever he went, and rarely knew a stranger; he was also a very good listener.  Ray was dearly loved and will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

Memorial contributions may be made in Ray's name to American Cancer Society.

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Guestbook Entries

  1. Cindy Patterson September 16, 2020 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    My prayers go out to your family. I worked with Ray for 33 years at AT&T and he was always so kind and caring. Ray will be missed by so many. He is now at peace with the Lord.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:19 pm - Reply

      Thank you Cindy

    • Patricia Clare Plott September 27, 2020 at 8:25 am - Reply

      yes,He was a darn hard worker . i bet youbwere ,too. Thanks for your words of comfort

  2. Randy Weiss September 16, 2020 at 10:07 pm - Reply

    candle 8Ray trained me as a cable splicer with Southwestern Bell in 1979 and worked with him in the loop electronics group until retirement in 2010 with AT&T. He was the best at whatever he worked at. Loved his family and his wife Tommy. His nephews and nieces loved being with them, because it was never a dull moment with their aunt and uncle.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:11 pm - Reply

      Thanks Randy

    • Patricia Clare Plott October 3, 2020 at 6:30 pm - Reply

      candle 2thanks for sharing.i still can’t register,no more visiting.
      we all are facing life’schallenges.

  3. Julia Yang September 16, 2020 at 11:11 pm - Reply

    candle 2God love you!!! I will pray for you!

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:12 pm - Reply

      Julia, thank you so much.

  4. doug knaus September 16, 2020 at 11:27 pm - Reply

    candle 6I wish i could put in better words what i thought of ray. I knew ray for many years and never knew another person that was as thoughtful and caring as ray. Our lives were so similar. Ray helped me through our similar experience and i will be forever grateful. He will be sorely missed. Rest in piece gentle sole.

    • Mary Engelmeyer October 11, 2020 at 12:35 am - Reply

      Doug . Peace be with you !
      ❤️

  5. Betty Lathrop September 17, 2020 at 8:46 am - Reply

    candle 3So sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to all family members for comfort.

    • Patricia Clare Plott September 27, 2020 at 8:24 am - Reply

      Michelle no words left other than thanks forbyour kind words.
      Geoff and I always love hearing from you.

    • Patricia Clare Plott October 3, 2020 at 6:31 pm - Reply

      candle 1thanks Betty.

  6. John Albert Engelmeyer September 17, 2020 at 9:09 am - Reply

    candle 1The obituary for Ray was perfectly written, I was privileged to know him and got to visit with him at his fathers funeral. He was a joy to talk to. Always had so much enthusiasm in his voice. He touched many lives and now God has taken him To be with his wife mother and father. Our prayers are out to his family because they will be missing him dearly!

  7. Michelle Potter September 17, 2020 at 10:34 am - Reply

    Never got to meet you, but your sister sung your praises. Rest In Peace with our Lord.

  8. Michael Kory September 17, 2020 at 5:27 pm - Reply

    I attended McBride High School with Ray for 4 years (class of 1970), and we played football together for 3 years. He was strong and tough, and a ferocious player. He also played basketball and was terrific at that sport as well. Ray was a fun-loving guy and I have a lot of great of memories of Ray during our high school days. I am gratified to see that Ray had such a happy and full life. RIP Ray.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 18, 2020 at 9:28 pm - Reply

      Mike, I’m so glad to see one of Ray’s high school buddies post memories. I didn’t know how to get in touch with friends he always spoke so highly of. Please share his obit with as many friends that you still stay in touch with.
      Thank you so much, Ray’s brother Gerry

  9. David Engelmeyer September 17, 2020 at 8:07 pm - Reply

    candle 3Prayers and thoughts with all Ray’s loved ones at this difficult time.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:16 pm - Reply

      Thanks David

    • Patricia Clare Plott October 3, 2020 at 6:29 pm - Reply

      candle 2great to visit, David.
      life has a long road to journey.
      every friend along the way makes it rich. your prayers are valued

  10. Joan Engelmeyer September 17, 2020 at 11:35 pm - Reply

    Living so far away from my family has been difficult, especially when we lose someone. Ray always said that it didn’t matter if we were physically together. What mattered was that we thought of each other. I’ll be thinking about him for the rest of my life. He was my hero.

    • Patricia Clare Plott September 27, 2020 at 8:26 am - Reply

      yes,He was a darn hard worker . i bet youbwere ,too. Thanks for your words of comfort

    • mary engelmeyer October 11, 2020 at 12:37 am - Reply

      🙏☮️😘

  11. Karin Berutti September 18, 2020 at 12:06 am - Reply

    Ray was such a sweet guy. I have so many fond memories of the family reunion talking with Ray and Tomi. Sending my love to all of you and praying for God’s comfort.

  12. Gail Holzhausen September 18, 2020 at 9:16 am - Reply

    My deepest sympathy, Don & Reene. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your extended Engelmeyer family

  13. Larry & Nancy Knaus September 18, 2020 at 9:45 am - Reply

    Ray was a genuinely good person. Our thoughts are with the family and friends.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:13 pm - Reply

      Thanks Larry and Nancy

  14. Ann Engelmeyer Ipsen September 18, 2020 at 2:12 pm - Reply

    Family reunion memories of cousin Ray include a kind, strong, but gentle man with a caring smile…
    No matter the age nor circumstance when a loved one passes, a void is formed in our hearts. We’re praying that space will become a place for his family to store memories of dear Ray and reminders of God’s love.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:15 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Ann

  15. Ann Engelmeyer Ipsen September 18, 2020 at 2:19 pm - Reply

    Family reunion memories of cousin Ray include a kind, gentle-yet-strong man with a caring smile…
    No matter the age nor circumstance when a loved one passes, a void is formed in our hearts. We’re praying that space is becoming a place for Ray’s family to store memories of him and reminders of God’s love.

  16. Susan Hughes September 20, 2020 at 10:18 am - Reply

    Gerry,
    So sorry to read about your brother. He was a great guy. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
    Susan Hughes

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:16 pm - Reply

      Thank you Susan

  17. William F. Goree September 20, 2020 at 8:13 pm - Reply

    I had the privilege to know and work with Ray at ATT.I am sorry for your loss.
    Bill Goree

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:10 pm - Reply

      Thanks Bill

  18. Amy September 20, 2020 at 9:48 pm - Reply

    candle 8You were one of my favorite patients. RIP

  19. Lance Siering September 21, 2020 at 7:03 pm - Reply

    I worked with Ray off and on over the years and what a pleasure it was to know him.
    His family is truly blessed to have all the memories and stories that I am sure will be remembered forever.
    Fly Ray fly.

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:18 pm - Reply

      Thanks Lance

  20. Tom Stallone September 22, 2020 at 3:49 am - Reply

    candle 6God Bless Ray

    • Gerry Engelmeyer September 22, 2020 at 6:18 pm - Reply

      Thanks so much Tom

  21. Karen DeLaPaz September 23, 2020 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    Don,
    I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  22. John and Denise Cooper September 23, 2020 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    Don and family,

    We are sorry to hear of Ray’s passing. He was always a nice guy. Glad that we got to know him and now he is with his love.

    John and Denise Cooper

  23. John Coiro September 24, 2020 at 9:42 pm - Reply

    I’ve known Ray since I was in 5th grade at Christ the King school. The Engelmeyers lived just 2 blocks from where I grew up. I was at the same garage as Ray when I was a lineman with Southwestern Bell. He was always a pleasure to talk to and we would discuss numerous subjects. I was shocked to hear of his passing. He will be surely missed. My thoughts and prayers to the Engelmeyer family.

  24. Patricia Clare Plott October 3, 2020 at 6:26 pm - Reply

    i will need the prayers,thank you.

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