Raymond Douglas Engelmeyer, of St. Charles, Missouri, passed away Monday, September 14, 2020 at the age of 68. He is now reunited with his true love of 38 years, Tomi Engelmeyer. Beloved son of the late Pauline and William Engelmeyer, Sr.; dear brother of Donald (Maureen) Engelmeyer, Gerald (Sharon) Engelmeyer, Paul (Mary Scully) Engelmeyer, Patricia Clare (Geoffrey) Plott, Stephen (Eileen) Engelmeyer, Barbara (Mark) Ryan, Mary Engelmeyer, Joan Engelmeyer, and the late William F. Engelmeyer Jr.; loving uncle of Donald, William, Geoffrey, Natalie, Valerie, Kaegan, Erik, Luke, Jane, Bill, Robert, Elizabeth, Nora, Christopher, Nicholas, Alexander, Audrey, and Marco; treasured great-uncle of Victoria, Emma, Carter, Nolen, Addison, Will, Graham, Ryder, Tuesday, Marley, Frances Rose, Bennett, Rowan, Olive, Ruth, Maiya, Ryan, Lucille, Harriet, Ivan, and Eden. Ray is also survived by his adorable miniature poodle, Peko.
Ray proudly and honorably served in the United States Marines during the Vietnam War. He met Tomi, the love of his life, while he was stationed over seas. He often said, "I guess it was written at birth, a German boy was to be in her life." Ray worked for AT&T and retired after more than 40 years with the company.
Ray was known for his strength, both physically and emotionally, and was a real rock of support to his family and friends. He had a great sense of humor and his blue eyes would sparkle when he made others laugh. He was a true gentleman who had a wonderful heart and genuinely cared for those around him.
Ray loved music, especially blues & jazz music, and he enjoyed playing the drums. He was also an avid horse racing fan and vintage car enthusiast. He had a passion for the written word, as seen in his talent for writing and his extensive library of books.
Ray could usually be found outdoors, and he enjoyed fishing and gardening with his wife, Tomi. He also liked to socialize wherever he went, and rarely knew a stranger; he was also a very good listener. Ray was dearly loved and will be greatly missed by all who knew him.
Memorial contributions may be made in Ray's name to American Cancer Society.
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My prayers go out to your family. I worked with Ray for 33 years at AT&T and he was always so kind and caring. Ray will be missed by so many. He is now at peace with the Lord.
Thank you Cindy
yes,He was a darn hard worker . i bet youbwere ,too. Thanks for your words of comfort
Thanks Randy
we all are facing life’schallenges.
Julia, thank you so much.
Doug . Peace be with you !
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Michelle no words left other than thanks forbyour kind words.
Geoff and I always love hearing from you.
Never got to meet you, but your sister sung your praises. Rest In Peace with our Lord.
I attended McBride High School with Ray for 4 years (class of 1970), and we played football together for 3 years. He was strong and tough, and a ferocious player. He also played basketball and was terrific at that sport as well. Ray was a fun-loving guy and I have a lot of great of memories of Ray during our high school days. I am gratified to see that Ray had such a happy and full life. RIP Ray.
Mike, I’m so glad to see one of Ray’s high school buddies post memories. I didn’t know how to get in touch with friends he always spoke so highly of. Please share his obit with as many friends that you still stay in touch with.
Thank you so much, Ray’s brother Gerry
Thanks David
life has a long road to journey.
every friend along the way makes it rich. your prayers are valued
Living so far away from my family has been difficult, especially when we lose someone. Ray always said that it didn’t matter if we were physically together. What mattered was that we thought of each other. I’ll be thinking about him for the rest of my life. He was my hero.
yes,He was a darn hard worker . i bet youbwere ,too. Thanks for your words of comfort
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Ray was such a sweet guy. I have so many fond memories of the family reunion talking with Ray and Tomi. Sending my love to all of you and praying for God’s comfort.
My deepest sympathy, Don & Reene. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your extended Engelmeyer family
Ray was a genuinely good person. Our thoughts are with the family and friends.
Thanks Larry and Nancy
Family reunion memories of cousin Ray include a kind, strong, but gentle man with a caring smile…
No matter the age nor circumstance when a loved one passes, a void is formed in our hearts. We’re praying that space will become a place for his family to store memories of dear Ray and reminders of God’s love.
Thank you so much Ann
Family reunion memories of cousin Ray include a kind, gentle-yet-strong man with a caring smile…
No matter the age nor circumstance when a loved one passes, a void is formed in our hearts. We’re praying that space is becoming a place for Ray’s family to store memories of him and reminders of God’s love.
Gerry,
So sorry to read about your brother. He was a great guy. My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Susan Hughes
Thank you Susan
I had the privilege to know and work with Ray at ATT.I am sorry for your loss.
Bill Goree
Thanks Bill
I worked with Ray off and on over the years and what a pleasure it was to know him.
His family is truly blessed to have all the memories and stories that I am sure will be remembered forever.
Fly Ray fly.
Thanks Lance
Thanks so much Tom
Don,
I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Don and family,
We are sorry to hear of Ray’s passing. He was always a nice guy. Glad that we got to know him and now he is with his love.
John and Denise Cooper
I’ve known Ray since I was in 5th grade at Christ the King school. The Engelmeyers lived just 2 blocks from where I grew up. I was at the same garage as Ray when I was a lineman with Southwestern Bell. He was always a pleasure to talk to and we would discuss numerous subjects. I was shocked to hear of his passing. He will be surely missed. My thoughts and prayers to the Engelmeyer family.
i will need the prayers,thank you.