James Allan Cooper

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October 13, 1954 - February 12, 2020
Born in Cocoa Beach, FL
Resided in St. Charles, MO

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James Allan Cooper, of Saint Charles, MO, passed away suddenly on Wednesday, February 12, 2020 at the age of 65. Loving husband of 41 wonderful years to Darlene Cooper; beloved son of the late Gene and Ann Brawley; devoted father of Jimmy (Erin) Cooper and Jeannie (Greg) Pfeiffer; cherished grandpa of Noah Cooper, Macy Pfeiffer, Lucy Cooper, Max Pfeiffer, and Maya Pfeiffer; dear brother of Mike (Connie) Brawley and Linda (Bob) Whaley; brother-in-law of Cheryl (Tim) O'Neill. Preceded in death by his sister, Brenda Brawley, and his treasured aunt, Goldie Gilmore.

Jim was a devoted Christian who walked his faith every day through his love for his family and the friendship he offered to so many. You did not need to see the cross he proudly wore around his neck to see he was a good and faithful servant.

Jim grew up in South St. Louis and attended St. Louis Public Schools. While attending Roosevelt High School, he made life-long friends with fellow teammates and met, let’s put this in the form of a question: She was the love of his life, the mother of his children, and his best friend. Who is Darlene Hughes?

They married shortly after Darlene finished college and moved to St. Charles where Darlene began her teaching career. For thirty years, Jim was the proverbial “early to bed and early to rise” man who delivered “cake” for Dolly Madison and, after the business changed hands, Hostess. He picked up friends there as well. He had many stories to tell of his time there, few better than when his truck broke down on his way out of St. Louis to make deliveries and again on the way back after making his deliveries.

Jim and Darlene joined Faith United Methodist Church in St. Charles and for over thirty-seven years, Jim served in many capacities whether that meant participating in the Sunday worship service, reaching out a helping hand to both members and non-members, or climbing on the riding lawn mower in the heat of a St. Louis summer.

Jim and Darlene were the proud parents of Jimmy and Jeannie who both grew up to reflect the best of both their parents. Jim never missed a sporting event whether it was soccer or cheerleading or a dance recital. His love for and pride in his children (and later, grandchildren) was evident to all.

Family was everything to Jim, and family included not only his family but Darlene’s as well (he proved that by sitting through not one, not two, but three Lutheran confirmation services). Siblings, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, cousins, and anyone fortunate enough to marry into those families were all blessed to have him in their lives. No event was too large or too small to become a family celebration (notwithstanding his t-shirt reading “I’m late. I didn’t want to come.”), and vacationing with the Coopers was a guaranteed good time.

Jim both loved and hated all St. Louis professional sports teams: Cardinals Baseball, Blues Hockey, and for many years, the team that shall not be named – football. He was part of the Cardinal Nation and bled blue. Jerseys became an integral part of his wardrobe. He shared this love of sports with friends and family and became his grandchildren’s biggest fan. Jim logged thousands of hours in stadium seats, on the bleachers (cheering on St. Charles West), and on his sofa where he could release frustration by ripping the arms and legs off of his stuffed referee.

Darlene made lifelong friends during her years of teaching in the Francis Howell School District, and those friends she made became Jim’s friends as well. Playing co-ed softball, carrying the team through countless trivia nights, going to the Hog Ball, and attending events and celebrations for the children of these friends all made it onto Jim’s busy social calendar.

Jim and Darlene retired in 2009 and they filled the next ten years with church work, travelling and all things grandchildren-related. Whether it was a beach chair and a cooler or a cabin on a cruise ship, Jim enjoyed vacationing with family and friends, and they are blessed to have so many memories of those trips.

Jim always took pleasure in the simple everyday things in life: grilling, listening to music from the 60’s and 70’s (notably ZZ Top), an ice cold beer, his dogs – Butkus (Da Bears), Dolly (his surprise from Darlene and Jeannie), Daisy, and Cody, all things cacti, feeding and watching hummingbirds, Jeopardy, reading – not just his daily devotion but any book history-related, football pools, and fantasy football, reading the daily paper (carefully stacked and organized by section), pecan pie, and all fans – ceiling fans, standing fans, oscillating fans, handheld fans.

God tells us in Ecclesiastes there will be a “time to weep, and a time to laugh, and a time to mourn, and a time to dance.” The time to weep and mourn will pass, but the time we laughed and danced with Jim will be in our hearts and minds for the rest of our lives. And we will keep Jim alive for Darlene, Jimmy and Erin, Jeannie and Greg, Noah, Macy, Lucy, Max (“my main man”) and Maya by sharing all the wonderful memories we have with them. And we will honor Jim by following his example so we may one day be told, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant.”

The family is requesting memorial donations be given to The Way Church, P.O. Box 442 Wentzville, MO 63385 and/or The American Red Cross.

Guestbook Entries

  1. Dawn Gross February 13, 2020 at 7:35 pm - Reply

    candle 1So sorry for your loss. Praying for you all.

  2. Dale and Pat Manies February 13, 2020 at 9:23 pm - Reply

    candle 8Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    May God Bless Your Family.

    • Rhonda chase February 15, 2020 at 1:52 pm - Reply

      candle 8I’m so sorry for your loss, Mark and I will keep your family in our prayers. God Bless

  3. Dave and Connie Senften February 13, 2020 at 9:42 pm - Reply

    We are so sorry to learn of your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you.

  4. Sharon Broeckelmann February 14, 2020 at 5:10 am - Reply

    candle 8Prayers for you and your family. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️

  5. Karen Kelly February 14, 2020 at 9:47 am - Reply

    candle 7I am so very sorry to hear this! I’ll be praying for the entire family’s peace and comfort!

  6. Joanie O'Neil February 14, 2020 at 10:17 am - Reply

    So sorry to hear of Jim’s passing, our deepest sympathies to you and your family. Prayers for confort to you and may Jim rest in peace,

  7. Rhonda and Barry Bognar February 14, 2020 at 10:33 am - Reply

    candle 3We extend our sympathy to all your family and are praying that you may find comfort in your many good memories of Jim’s time here.

  8. Charles Hutchens February 14, 2020 at 7:57 pm - Reply

    So for your loss! I went to Roosevelt with Jim and we played football together! We met for lunch a couple months ago with other Roosevelt friends! Jim told me that life was great! He never dreamed it could be so good! RIP my Friend! God Bless you and your family! It’s an honor to call you my Friend!

  9. Edith Grabbe February 14, 2020 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    My heart goes out to all of you! Jim was such a loving person.Praying peace and comfort for you all.

  10. Steve Tucker February 15, 2020 at 4:05 am - Reply

    I also went to Roosevelt and played football with Jim, he was always in a good mood and was great to be around! I’m so glad I got to see him at our lunch a couple of months ago. God bless Darlene and family!

  11. Rich Willett February 15, 2020 at 6:48 am - Reply

    Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. I know it has been a while, but it was always good to see Jim in the stands cheering us on in baseball and soccer games. Just as the obituary said, I believe he was at every one of them. My heart goes out to your whole family.

  12. Mitzi Brammer February 15, 2020 at 8:15 am - Reply

    candle 7My heart aches for you as you mourn Jim’s death. However, I know and I am confident Jim was greeted in heaven with, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” I pray you feel God’s love and peace during this difficult time.

  13. Brando Hall February 15, 2020 at 8:48 am - Reply

    candle 7Very sorry and sad to hear of the passing of James. He leaves behind such a great testimony of a life well lived. Praying for all of you.

  14. Mary Beth Wells February 15, 2020 at 9:36 am - Reply

    candle 1What wonderful memories you have of Jim that will be cherished forever. Praying for you all.

  15. Bruce and Audrey Baxter February 15, 2020 at 10:21 am - Reply

    Profoundly sorry to hear of your loss.
    Sending love, and praying for you.

  16. Tamara Jordan February 15, 2020 at 10:58 am - Reply

    candle 8Your family is greatly loved by all. Angels have their arms wrapped around you in this time.

  17. Dean and Colette Ferrell February 15, 2020 at 11:27 am - Reply

    We are so sorry for your loss, and the entire family will be in our prayers for the days to come. Jim was a very special person, and to say that he never met a stranger would be an understatement. Jim touched many, many lives during his life, and while grief will seem to be all around, please take time to remember all of the great memories that you will have to share. Both Colette and I count ourselves as some of the lucky people that had the privileged to know him, and I truly believe that through his humor, friendship, kindness, and character, he left the world a better place by being a part of it.

  18. Donna Gilmore February 15, 2020 at 11:52 am - Reply

    candle 7My love and Prayers to all the family
    Jim’s memories will never fade he was special.

  19. Nancy Huff McMahan February 15, 2020 at 11:52 am - Reply

    candle 8I am so sorry to hear of your husband’s passing, Darlene. The memories you must have from just the times mentioned here❤️
    You will be in my extended prayers. I have been where you are now for 9 years this April. It does not get easier, but you will see your hubby often through your children and grandchildren.
    God bless your family,
    Nancy Huff McMahan

  20. Tom & Jane Potter February 15, 2020 at 1:23 pm - Reply

    We are so very sorry for your loss. We know fond memories of Jim will help you through this difficult time, as will the knowledge he is resting at peace with Jesus. Please accept our sympathy. Our prayers are with you.

  21. Chuck and Joyce Pingry February 15, 2020 at 3:46 pm - Reply

    We are so sorry to hear of Jim’s passing and send our deepest sympathies. We pray you and family find comfort and peace. Jim certainly did his best to leave this world a better place.

  22. Pan Gilmore McDonald February 15, 2020 at 3:56 pm - Reply

    Being in the Gilmore family meant plenty of cousins. We all grew up with parents who made sure the cousins knew each other and visited frequently. Aunt Ann, my dad George’s, sister was the glue of the family. It was her joy to keep tabs on the family and my dad loved her dearly! I remember Linda, Jimmy and Brenda well as children. Family reunions, visits to Missouri always meant seeing Aunt Ann and her kids! Jimmy and Linda were two adorable redheads that their mother loved with all her heart. I can see Aunt Ann running to the gates of heaven, arms wide, welcoming her son! My dad nearby. Brenda too. The glory of knowing Jesus as our Lord and Savior is that one day in His beautiful presence we will once again be with our saved loved ones, never again to be separated.
    As hard as it is for those left behind to wait, we grieve their empty chair, their laughter and hugs. But we also have those memories that remind us that a dear soul was so vital in our lives. Jimmy is with you, and in you, dear families. Keep remembering. Keep loving. And know that me and all the Gilmore’s love you all deeply and miss Jimmy with you. Our prayers and love are here for you always. Hugging you all in my heart. 🙋‍♀️💕

  23. Laurie & Charlie Morgan February 15, 2020 at 6:10 pm - Reply

    We’ve met several times through Judy Johnson, and I just wanted to tell you how sorry we are to hear of your tremendous loss. I know Jim will always be in your heart, and I hope your memories will bring you comfort.

  24. Beth and Gary Long February 15, 2020 at 9:56 pm - Reply

    We are so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. We’ll be praying for you and you’re family!

  25. Bobbie Grass February 16, 2020 at 7:24 am - Reply

    So sorry for your loss. Hugs and comfort are prayed for the family

  26. Dianne Tweedy February 16, 2020 at 7:44 am - Reply

    candle 6What beautiful and amazing memories you shared. I know you will miss him, but those memories will go on forever. May he rest in peace. God will give you the strength needed to move forward. Blessings to all.

  27. Dawn Douglas February 16, 2020 at 8:05 am - Reply

    So very sorry to hear of the passing of your father. He is celebrating with our Lord Jesus now. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all of your family.

  28. Jack & Dru Nugent February 16, 2020 at 2:49 pm - Reply

    candle 5I will always remember Mr, Cooper sitting a couple rows from the front, on the left during church services at The Way. Always a smile on his face and being there to support his son, Pastor Jimmy,
    He will be dearly missed by all that knew him.
    Our condolences and prayers go out to his family as you go through the difficult time of loosing your loved one.

  29. Chris Pivirotto February 16, 2020 at 3:53 pm - Reply

    candle 8A great father to a great family. I’m glad to have known him.

  30. Sharon and Mike Wall February 16, 2020 at 9:01 pm - Reply

    It’s so easy to remember good times spent with Jim, there were so many. He always had a kind, happy, fun spirit about him and this will be what most is miss about Jim. our thoughts and prayers go to Darlene, Jimmy, Jeannie and their families. We were truly blessed to have him in our lives.

  31. Doug and Donna Kinslow February 17, 2020 at 11:03 am - Reply

    We are so sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you and your family.

  32. Todd and Tonya Graham February 17, 2020 at 12:52 pm - Reply

    candle 6We are so very blessed to have known Jim. Thank you to the family , for including us in to the wonderful family of yours. Prayers for all of you.

  33. Linda Gaither (work with Erin) February 18, 2020 at 7:27 am - Reply

    So sorry for your loss and praying for God’s comfort and strength for you all during this time. Cherish the ;memories

  34. Susie Phillips Petru February 18, 2020 at 8:13 am - Reply

    candle 2Darlene we are so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in our prayers. You know we felt Jim was so much a part of our family from the first day Joe came home and said I made a friend “Jim Cooper” forever after he was Cooper. We loved him like a brother. Joe will no longer have his audience for his antics. It’s very hard to put into words the sadness we feel.

  35. Wendy & Mike Wells February 18, 2020 at 11:19 am - Reply

    candle 1I know your hearts are aching, sending you healing prayers and comforting hugs!!

  36. St. Peters PW-Gold-Hurlbert Hockey Team February 18, 2020 at 12:15 pm - Reply

    candle 3Please know you all are in our thoughts. We will all miss seeing Grandpa Cooper at hockey games, but we all know he is watching over Noah while on the ice. Rest in peace.

  37. St. Peters PW-Gold-Hurlbert Hockey Team February 18, 2020 at 12:23 pm - Reply

    candle 3We are so sorry for your loss. We will miss seeing Grandpa Cooper at the hockey games. We know he will always be with Noah on the ice. Rest in peace.

  38. Grosvenor's - Hockey Family February 18, 2020 at 2:34 pm - Reply

    candle 6We are so sorry for you loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.

  39. Mary Jordan February 18, 2020 at 8:30 pm - Reply

    Jimmy, Mike and I are so sorry hear of the loss of your Dad. You and your family will be in our prayers.

  40. Kim Wiese February 19, 2020 at 8:27 am - Reply

    We were so sorry to learn of Jims’ passing. We really enjoyed him and his funny stories while he attended pulmonary rehab
    with us. It was a joy to work with him and we are keeping your family in our prayers. It was so nice to see you both recently.
    Our deepest condolences.

    The Pulmonary Rehab girls,
    Kim, Lynn, and Karen

  41. Diane Dreyer February 19, 2020 at 8:46 am - Reply

    candle 1Darlene, I was sorry to hear about your husband. Please remember you have sooooo many that love you at BSF and any of us can be there whenever you need/want us! God’s peace be with you and your family.

  42. Russ and Lois Lawson February 19, 2020 at 7:06 pm - Reply

    So sorry for your loss. Our love and prayers for all of your family. We were blessed today as so many shared about Jim’s life for his celebration of life service. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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