Chelsea Mariah Cottner

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August 28, 1995 - November 6, 2019
Born in St. Louis, MO
Resided in Florissant, MO

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Chelsea Mariah Cottner, of Florissant, MO, passed away Wednesday, November 6, 2019 at the age of 24. Beloved fiancé of Brittney Winters; cherished daughter of James and Melissa Cottner; dear sister of Kimberly Marie (Richard ) Stulce, Randy James (Shannon) Cottner, Joni Lorene Ann Noe, and Zach (Calah) Ketts; loving aunt to Riley Noe, Adanna Cottner, Austin Jonas, Madysen Jonas, Olivia Noe, Kyleigh Stulce, Anastasia Ketts, Chace Stulce, Logan Stulce and Kohner Stulce; loving granddaughter of Roseann Cottner and Mary Marsh; treasured God mother of Oliver Koch and Alexa Welz. Also survived by the Winters’ Family, Thomas Winters, Janice Winters, Heather Winters, Chad (Megan) Winters, Cory (Emily) Winters, Owen Winters, Connor Winters, Ella Winters; and an overwhelming amount of friends and family.

Chelsea is preceded in death by her grandfather, James Cottner and grandmother, Jackie "Maw Maw” (Lee Killbreath) Horn.

Chelsea was a huge advocate for the First Responders Code Green Campaign and Endo Warriors. Her passions were to fight for everyone who was unable to fight for themselves, this included LGBTQ and Planned Parenthood. Chelsea’s main priority was to be the shoulder/rock for whomever needed her at the time. She loved her husky Athena, her hedgehog Optimus Prime, and her cat Smokey. Chelsea was very passionate about her job as an EMT and was working on her paramedic license. She will be remembered for her caring and adventurous personality. Chelsea was dearly loved and will be greatly missed by all who knew her.

Memorials may be made in Chelsea's name to First Responders Code Green Campaign and Endo Warriors.

Guestbook Entries

  1. Leah Jarrell November 8, 2019 at 7:22 pm - Reply

    candle 6Chelsea you were like one of my own. I love how much you cared for Madison and Darrah. You were always there for birthdays, Maddie’s soccer games with homeade signs. You even made sure to give go to ALL of “Lou Bugs” dance recitals. I think about all times we went to Shakespeare in the Park, the Drive-In at Belleville or the times you went to the beach with us. Although you spent waaaay more much time on your phone in the room than the actual beach. Lol
    I was so worried that when you all graduated High School I would never see you. But even when Maddie went off to college you would still come by just to visit and maaaaybe eat whatever I was cooking up that evening.
    You had a big heart. That you shared with countless people.
    We love you and will miss you dearly. You will always be a part of our family.
    Love “Momma Jarrell”

    • Jim Cottner November 9, 2019 at 8:25 am - Reply

      candle 1For anyone who had to endure the loss of any of their children you have my deepest sympathy. This is a pain you couldn’t even imagine unless you have had to go through it.
      After trying to read all of these post about Chelsea through all of my years I see it’s not only her family suffering, it’s pretty much anyone she had ever met.
      God bless you all for being a big part of my baby girls life and I pray that some day this pain will at least ease for all of us

      • Shelly Preuss (momma Oswald) November 9, 2019 at 9:21 am - Reply

        Jim – you and your entire family have my whole heart! This is a pain I would not wish in my worst enemy! This is not ever how life was or is supposed to be! We should never have to plan our children’s funeral! When my son passed away your Chelsea was one of the first at my home, and she never left my side! You all raised one amazing young lady! And my family for one is going to miss her like crazy! I am going to miss getting my messages when it is road clean up time that say momma you know what to do, so do your thing! I am just so very sorry! There is nothing that anyone can say to take away your pain! If there was I would say it over and over a thousand times to you! Just know I am here for your family for anything you may need, along with hundreds of others! That will never change!

  2. Dana Parker November 8, 2019 at 7:58 pm - Reply

    candle 1May God comfort you, and your family in this time of bereavement. Monica Quirin
    You are in my prayers.

  3. Amanda Rose November 8, 2019 at 8:39 pm - Reply

    candle 2Joni, i am so terrible sorry and saddened by your loss. I want you to know i am thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Please reach out if you ever need anyone to talk to. Big hugs.

  4. Nicky Davis November 8, 2019 at 8:55 pm - Reply

    candle 7I recently had a loss myself. Came home to be with family. I hadn’t seen Chelsea fo probably 10 years. I was basically a stranger to her, but she caught me having a moment crying and she just held me and let me cry on her shoulder. From what I understand this was just who she was. I wish I had a chance to know my niece better. See was a lovely girl. Our hearts and prayers are with her family and loved ones.

  5. Nik Seidner November 8, 2019 at 9:01 pm - Reply

    candle 8Another day goes by, hoping that this all one big messed up nightmare, but unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be the case. I’m never going to have another day where I can text you out of the blue making fun of some post I’ve seen on Facebook, and vice versa. I’m not going to hear you call me “Dikolas” to get my attention or when you’re annoyed with me. I’m not going to be able to use your shoulder to cry on about my problem. Bit that’s okay. I’m so incredibly grateful for the time I got to spend with you, including the time we lived together. This terrible time has brought so many people together and I think that’s wonderful. It’s wonderful that you touched so many people and brought us all together. It’ll be hard, hard as hell to get through everything without you, but I’ll always be thinking of you. I love you Chels. Thank you for everything.

  6. Mikayla Virgin November 8, 2019 at 9:06 pm - Reply

    candle 2Chelsea, I still can’t believe this is really happening. I miss you so much and I loved you even more. I knew that I could text you for anything and you’d be there for me in a heart beat. I’m going to miss opening your thousands of Snapchat videos of you singing and ranting about what the day had been like. Watch over all of us in the terrible time. You were special and the world is going to miss having you in it. Until we meet again my friend. Rest easy Chels. I love you so much.

    • Sammi Ash November 9, 2019 at 6:55 am - Reply

      candle 5I would give anything to get to call you one last time. To get strange calls from you randomly asking about Athena eating her poop. To get a call from you asking what to do if you were bit by a sloth. Basically, I would give anything just to hear your voice once more. You had such a calming aura, you truly were an incredible woman. I hope to be as strong and as powerful as you were when you were here, you’re the biggest role model. Please watch over us all, I know you know how loved you are, and I’ll say it every day until we meet again. Thanks for always being a wonderful friend. Now, rest easy baby girl.

  7. Kim Stulce November 8, 2019 at 9:06 pm - Reply

    candle 7My sweet baby sister. How can this be true. I still cannot seem to wrap my head around it. I miss talking to you already. I was just talking to you the other day. I’m heading into town to see you, but I wish it wasn’t under these circumstances. I love you, and it breaks my heart so much to say rest easy little sis. We will meet again someday.

  8. Christne November 8, 2019 at 9:33 pm - Reply

    candle 6Zach I am so sorry for your family’s loss of someone so very special.

    I pray God wraps his arms around your family providing the strength you need to come together and comfort each other.
    Love you

  9. Jackie Pondrom November 8, 2019 at 9:33 pm - Reply

    I will always remember your smiling face walking in the house. You and Nicki getting ready to go out for the day/evening. Your caring self always there for Nicki. You will always a hold a place in our hearts and memories.
    To Chelsea’s family and friends…Let the memories of Chelsea fill your mind, warm your heart, and lead you through.

  10. Gabrielle Jenkins November 8, 2019 at 9:59 pm - Reply

    candle 5Chelsea you’ve been my absolute rock since May. Every chance you got you text to check in with me and see how things were going. I remember I was Having a really bad week and you sent me literally a page of encouragement and love ❤️ you’re an amazing friend and i love You to pieces. I’m going to miss you so much. You have no idea how much you helped me get through and i only Hope i offered You even a fraction of the comfort you gave to me.

  11. Charmaine Workun November 9, 2019 at 1:33 am - Reply

    candle 8I don’t think there is anything else I can say that hasn’t been said by so many already. We may have had our differences at work but none of that made any impact when it came to us being family. Because despite everything family sticks together no matter what. Saying my heart aches because you are gone just doesn’t feel like it fully expresses how I feel that you’re gone. I hope to carry on acts of kindness in your name. I’ll Support those who are different and need someone to stand up with them and I’ll do it in your honor and with the same amount of passion you had. I know you’ll always be with us Chelsea and I hope your spirit within all of us will make us stronger as time goes on. You may have left this earth but you will live on in our hearts for a lifetime. We all love you and I hope you know that.

  12. Auryetta Torres-Jeffery November 9, 2019 at 3:20 am - Reply

    candle 8As the days continue to pass it’s becoming more of a reality that you are no longer here. You were such an amazing person with an amazing spirit. I’m going to miss you so much Chelsea. ❤️

  13. Michelle Hamilton November 9, 2019 at 6:48 am - Reply

    candle 4Chelsea, I’m so deeply saddened to hear of your passing. My deepest condolences to your fiancé, Jim and Melissa, Kim, Randy, Joni, and all the others who loved you so much. May God be with them as they go through this terrible time, and always. Rest easy, Chelsea.

  14. Darrah Michelle Higginbotham November 9, 2019 at 7:29 am - Reply

    candle 7Chelsea,
    It’s hard for me to find words and when does that ever happen? Haha. We’ve been friends since the beginning and will remain friends for my lifetime; for forever. I wish I could turn back time; I’m still waiting to wake up and find out this was all just a terrible nightmare. But slowly I’m realizing that this is real and that my life has changed forever. You always said, we were the type of friends that even though we didn’t talk every day or see each other all the time.. that when we did, we would pick up where we left off. We were ALWAYS there for each other whenever we needed one another and for important days like your parents anniversary party. You were always a phone call or text away if I needed you… even some nights where it was 2 in the morning. Thank you for all the times you made me feel special; The “happy sweet 16” in golf balls with PJ, the many birthday posts, and of course the funny memes making fun of how obnoxious I can be. Thank you for the times we came together and acted as if life doesn’t go on and we’re still those 11 year old girls at Momma Jarrell’s house with Madi watching scary movies on Netflix and eating every snack in their kitchen. I miss you so much it hurts. It hurts so badly I want to pretend this didn’t happen; and that I’ll wake up from this dream. I love you beyond words best friend. Until we meet again ♥️ — DAR

  15. Levi November 9, 2019 at 8:45 am - Reply

    candle 7I never knew Adannas aunt but what I heard was only good. I hope the entire family is well and doing okay.

  16. Candice Henricks November 9, 2019 at 8:59 am - Reply

    candle 7Chelsea, Where do I even begin? We’ve been best friends growing up since as far back as I can remember… We use to spend hours upon hours playing games growing up together side by side. We use to go for long walks pretending we were adventurers exploring the world when secretly we were only out in the big field of your backyard. We would spend most days after school outside my mom and your moms work playing tag and hide and go seak until we begged one of our parents to take one of us back to their home so we could spend more time together. I remember the many summers we spent diving for hidden treasures or pretending we were mermaids in your pool in the backyard. I remember the many sundays we spent going to Sunday school together. We use to go down to your basement and and play dress up and make up pretend life stories. We use to make our parents drive to and from their work to drop and pick us up which looking back i remember to be such a long drive until I finally got my liscence and could come visit you myself. Chelsea ever since you were little I knew you were different. You had this huge heart and love for so many things and the way you loved your friends… it was so deep. The world hasn’t been always so kind to us and we were both so fragile. Distance may have pulled us apart but when we finally got back in eachothers prescence… it felt as if no time at all had passed. To say we grew up together is an understatement… we were practically sisters. We fought many times growing up but I remember it always came back to the fact we missed eachother and didn’t see eachother enough. And looking back now I couldn’t have asked for a better little sister and that’s exactly what we called eachother. We may not be blood but at heart you will always be my one and only little sister. I am just so heart broken, Chelsea you had so much more in life to offer. I pray for your family, your fiancé, and all of your wonderful friends. I hope God gives them the strength now in this time and I pray with all my heart you find peace. I love you sissy…. you will forever be in my heart and if there’s only one thing I could say about Chelsea is that she was so special… and touched so many peoples lives, and that she will forever be missed.

  17. Lauren Hampp November 9, 2019 at 10:24 am - Reply

    candle 2Chelsea reached out to me my freshmen year of college, August of 2015, and we became close very quickly. From always meeting up at Starbucks to work on homework together, going out to eat, or staying in her room watching tv, she was always so comforting to be around. She had a way with words and providing good advice, was a great listener, and always wanted nothing but to help others in any way she could. The last memory I have of her is her showing up to my hospital room in May when I had my appendix taken out suddenly. She had worked a double shift, was still in her uniform, when she walked in with a QT slushee. That was our thing. My heart aches for her fiancée, her family, and all of her friends. She was truly loved and cherished by so many people because it shows.
    Chelsea, thank you for allowing me to be apart of your life for the time that I was and for being such a huge impact in mine. I love you, forever and always.

    • Chelsea Lulu November 10, 2019 at 6:23 pm - Reply

      candle 4Lauren my heart breaks for you, & just know you have a rallying of support. I know you guys were close. Let me know if you need anything 🖤

  18. Mary ann Twitty November 9, 2019 at 10:58 am - Reply

    My heart goes out to Jim and Melissa. THERE Is no loss comparable to our children.As days and months go by,you become less numb.Its a numbness I wish on noone.My prayers are with u for strength to each other.

  19. Reyna November 9, 2019 at 1:24 pm - Reply

    candle 8Chelsea, it’s Like I saw you yesterday having fun and just looking forward to all the things that were coming your way in life 24 years is too short I’m really gonna miss you, you really meant a lot to me I know I will you see you again someday soon fly High love you Chelsea 💕🤟🏻

  20. Brittany Docket November 9, 2019 at 2:36 pm - Reply

    Chelsea touched my life. As her teacher, I got to watch her transform into a bold, caring big hearted woman. You have a piece of my heart my dear. You were loved and will be deeply missed.

  21. Ranae price November 9, 2019 at 7:34 pm - Reply

    candle 8Rest in peace!! I’m so sorry for your family.

  22. Beth Gratta November 9, 2019 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    candle 1Chelsea will forever remain the sunny little girl who would grab my hand at recess and chatter on so sweetly. I still see your long blond hair shining in the light, your sparkling eyes, and of course your beautiful smile that always warmed my heart. I would say to you, “Chelsea, go and play with the other kids and have some fun! Scram, little one!” You would giggle and I would gently squeeze your hand as we walked along the playground. You would ask a million questions about me, my family, and any other myriad of thoughts that popped into your head. Such a bright child. Such a sweet soul. And later when you grew into the amazing woman I always knew you would be, you shocked me with the kindest words. “You were like my Miss Honey, Mrs. Gratta.” You didn’t know it, but my heart melted and tears ran down my face when I read that post. You will always be my sweet girl and most cherished second grade student. But most importantly, I have the honor of saying you were my friend. I will always smile when I think of you and what a marvelous human being you always were. Love you sweet, sweet girl. So much.

  23. Donna Bensing November 9, 2019 at 11:04 pm - Reply

    candle 1Melissa and Jim and family I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I didn’t know Chelsea but from what I’ve heard she was a wonderful person. May god bless you all. RIP Chelsea.

  24. Morgan Moore November 10, 2019 at 9:56 am - Reply

    candle 1I grew to know and love Chelsea through my dearest friend Jennifer Lehmann.

    Her smile was bright and she always made me feel special.

    Chelsea will forever shine on and watch over us from above.

    My condolences for your loss but just know you have a beautiful angel watching over you.
    God bless you.

  25. brandyn birdsong November 10, 2019 at 9:58 am - Reply

    ive met you only once but you were an an amazing soul and loved by soo many may you rest in peace

  26. Zach Ketts November 10, 2019 at 1:16 pm - Reply

    candle 8Chelsea you are missed dearly by many. You are a lifesaver, beautiful, smart, and always cared about everyone. Thank you for all the memories that we had together and of course wish there was many more but you have a place in my heart and now on my leg that I will have for the rest of my life. The news was so tragic and I couldn’t wrap my mind around it all day. The picture of you and Anastasia when she was just born melts my heart and I currently have it as my background and will print it off and hang it in my house. We are all hurting and this is day 6. I can’t wait to see you tonight even though it will hurt, but we all know that you are watching all of us right now. I could go on and on but I leave it at this. You will always be my little sister and nothing can change that…we miss and love you so much ❤️

  27. Victoria Braswell-Heskett (Tori) November 10, 2019 at 1:47 pm - Reply

    candle 5I only met you last month on our trip to AR with the girls. I wish I could have gotten to know you more. Thought I had way more time to do so. I’m going to miss you. You were beautiful inside and out. My condolences to your family.

  28. Tina Blaise November 10, 2019 at 5:58 pm - Reply

    candle 6Chelsea, I know we worked together and had our differences but I did have the up most respect for you and did cheer for you when you got your EMT something you were very passionate about I will miss you and Your great personality and everytime I look at Nightmare Before Christmas stuff you always came to my mind to the family and friends prayers for you Blessed be

  29. Ana Leon November 10, 2019 at 6:01 pm - Reply

    candle 8Working with you was the best and seeing you grow made me want to grow and having fun with you was the best fly high baby girl ♥️

  30. Darnell Lewis November 10, 2019 at 6:17 pm - Reply

    candle 1My beloved little sister! I am beyond grateful for God allowing me the opportunity to learn of, bond with and spend time with you! I will continue to speak your name and move forward with medic school with you at the forefront of my every move! I will miss our talk and texts, our snaps and messenger messages. Take your rest my love bug, until we meet again, I love you Chelsea Bug💔

  31. Chelsea Boyd November 10, 2019 at 6:24 pm - Reply

    candle 3Ready easy, & prayers to the family

  32. Mary Shucart November 10, 2019 at 6:56 pm - Reply

    God Bless you baby girl 🙏🙏🙏

  33. James moser November 11, 2019 at 7:23 am - Reply

    candle 1Rest easy for ur soul deserves 2 lay at peace as one. And ur heart mind body & soul was created for the best of nature. R.I.P

  34. The Albisser Family November 11, 2019 at 10:35 am - Reply

    candle 8Chelsea, where do we begin to tell u how special u were to us. U came into Justin’s life when he really needed a friend. U became a big sister to the twins. From the very first day we met u…I will always be “momma Albisser” to u. I’ve always commented on your posts that we love u no matter what. We were so very proud of u for becoming an EMT. But know this baby girl, u will live on in all of us. Your spunky spirit is what will get each of us through the days.
    To the Cottner family…please know we r here for u always. We loved that baby girl of yours as if she was our own child. She was a beautiful young woman who left us way too soon. Her memory will stay in our hearts forever.
    To Brittney…our hearts r broken for u as well. I spoke to Chelsea a short time ago about the wedding. She was looking forward to next October. We r here for u as well, Brittney. Although, we had only met u one time, Chelsea seemed to shine being with u. Cherish each moment and memory that u had with Chelsea for the short time u had with her.
    CHELS, it’s time to say goodbye but we can’t. Let’s say till we see u again.
    We love u more than words can say and we’ll truly miss that beautiful smile of yours. FLY HIGH, baby girl…and look down at all of us. 😭

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