The Holiday Season is typically so full of joy and love that everyone looks forward to them all year long. However, when you lose someone you love you may find yourself being torn between wanting to be joyous for the season and the reality that you may be dreading these days as you see them coming closer on the calendar.
There is no doubt that the loss of a loved one changes our lives forever. In the beginning, we may not even be able to really understand what that means! The holidays are hard and one of the best ways of coping with them is to first admit that these are tough days and weeks. Sometimes just saying the truth out loud can help alleviate the anxiety tat grief creates within us.
Second, make sure you make plans. It is always good to make a plan. Grief takes away so much and leaves us feeling helpless at times. When we make a plan, whether it is to spend the day with family or go the grave to leave flowers, you are taking back some of that control. It helps create a balance between the two.
Last, please take care of your physical self and reach out for assistance. Grief takes its toll on our physical self. When we are grieving we don’t sleep as much, we make take to much comfort in food that does not nurture our body and we may just not feel like doing much! In other words, many who are grieving find themselves with a compromised immune system and overall just feeling yucky. I encourage you to take time to just do one thing a day that will help your physical health. Maybe it is seeing your doctor or walking around the mall a couple times at a brisk pace. There is a link between feeling physically good and emotionally healthy.
If you’re having difficulty coping with grief, we are here to help. The Center for Hope & Healing offers resources to help you deal with your loss because we understand how important it is for you to honor your loved one’s memory by moving past sadness and back into life. Call 636-328-0878 for support, or to learn more about all we have to offer.